So a little game about forum comments by Emily Gera. Found it via the RPS Sunday Papers. Everything about it reads true as fuck to most comments on sites.
Wikipedia: Nice guy
Nice guy is a term in the general public discourse and in popular culture describing an adult or teenage male with friendly yet unassertive personality traits in the context of a relationship with a woman. A typical nice guy believes in putting the needs of others before his own, avoids confrontations, does favors, gives emotional support, tries to get out of trouble, and generally acts nicely towards women.
Some paragraphs about how women want jerks.. all based on 1 shitty study.
and then this gem
Other viewpoints on the “nice guy”
The termsNice Guy™andnice guy syndromeare used infeministcircles to describe men who view themselves as prototypical “nice guys,” but whose “nice deeds” are in reality only motivated by manipulating women into a relationship and/or sex.
I fucking hate “nice guys” as they are also dudes who wouldn’t do anything nice for me. Because I don’t have a vagina. Thus, they aren’t actually nice guys, but assholes who try and do favors for women thinking that will get them laid.
Wikipedia’s page is obviously written by these losers, I feel like it needs more done to confront “Nice Guys” into realizing that what they are doing ISN’T NICE or right.
[TW: rape] But it was not until 1993 that marital rape had become a crime in the sexual offense codes of all 50 states. By 1996, 17 states and the District of Columbia completely repealed their exemptions from rape prosecution granted to husbands. However, 30 states still allow husbands some exemption from rape prosecution. Remarkably, in many of these 30 states, when a wife is legally unable to consent—for example, when she is mentally or physically impaired, unconscious, or asleep—a husband is exempt from prosecution. The weakness of marital-rape laws—the fact that a majority of states still allow these spousal exemptions—indicates that rape within the context of marriage is perceived as a less egregious act and treated by the criminal justice system as a less serious crime than if committed by anyone else. Indeed, wives are still to a significant degree the property of their husbands.”
Michelle L. Meloy and Susan L. Miller, The Victimization of Women: Law, Policies, and Politics (via wretchedoftheearth)
because for people who don’t know, the Model Penal Code said so.
Really. Fucking read that bullshit.
Hear that, straight ladies? You still more or less belong to your husband.(via stfuconservatives)
Shit Reddit Says - Giant Asshole Pro Gamer Edition!
So the short story is, internet famous Starcraft 2 player Destiny got naked pics of a girl, then he shared them with a bunch of people and called her ugly. Word got back to her. She hijacked his twitter and posted his dick pictures that he gave her.
His fans railed to his defense, Destiny is threatening to somehow cut off her financial aid? Dude also has a girlfriend. SRS users keep digging and finding shit, like the time earlier this year where he mocked and groped a woman, Mia Rose, while later saying it was totally okay.
Also they found another instance where he was trying to say “no, it’s okay to blurt out horribly offensive statements while gaming, just because the first thing in my mind is homophobic or racist, it doesn’t mean anything.”
He is basically the scum of the earth, some people in the Starcraft community find him to be terrible, but hey.. he has tons of defenders.
Tons of them.
It’s what makes Reddit terrible, all the people who leap to his defense of being a complete asshole. Go read, and feel the rage burning. Also remember that for the very large part, his racism and misogyny are considered great and cool by the gaming community, and I’ve yet to see much in the way of people saying “no, fucking don’t.”
What if all women were bigger and stronger than you? And thought they were smarter? What if women were the ones who started wars? What if too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos and no K-Y Jelly? What if the state trooper who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike was a woman and carried a gun? What if the ability to menstruate was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs? What if your attractiveness to women depended on the size of your penis? What if every time women saw you they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands? What if women were always making jokes about how ugly penises are and how bad sperm tastes? What if you had to explain what’s wrong with your car to big sweaty women with greasy hands who stared at your crotch in a garage where you are surrounded by posters of naked men with hard-ons? What if men’s magazines featured cover photos of 14-year-old boys with socks tucked into the front of their jeans and articles like: “How to tell if your wife is unfaithful” or “What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate” or “The truth about impotence”? What if the doctor who examined your prostate was a woman and called you “Honey”? What if you had to inhale your boss’ stale cigar breath as she insisted that sleeping with her was part of the job? What if you couldn’t get away because the company dress code required you wear shoes designed to keep you from running? And what if after all that women still wanted you to love them?”
— For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, Carol Diehl. (via theseasonofthewitch)
People would regularly take note of the publications listed on my badge and say, “But you don’t really play, right?” I was assumed to be eye candy, the pretty face of a publication whose content was provided by people with actual talent. Every time I protested, the offender would say — as if it were a proven fact — “Well, girls aren’t usually into this stuff, you know.”
SHUT THE FUCK UP UNTIL YOU’VE READ THIS.
OK. This probably won’t be my last post responding to all the hate and criticism I’ve been getting, but hopefully this can be a somewhat definitive one, because I keep reading the same points being made over and over, often using the exact same wording, which makes me think that many of you are just regurgitating someone else’s opinions. This will certainly not be an apology, nor a backtrack, because I meant everything I said (I almost don’t even want to clarify because I like what I wrote so much), but it seems that pretty much everyone misunderstood what I wrote, and what I was trying to convey, so this will merely be a clarification. It seems like people saw the intense rhetoric, and had a knee-jerk reaction of anger and hate. I really don’t care. I don’t care that you hate me. I don’t even know why I’m writing this. I guess I just feel compelled to correct inaccurate condemnations of me that have spread through the internet like…something that spreads quickly.
So I’ll go through the posts of mine that have received the most attention, and I’ll address the more common issues everyone has with them. If you want to call me a misogynist based on this post, fine, I don’t give a fuck, but just hear me out first.
First, by far the most popular post:To all the women of the world,
If you’ve rejected me, I hate you.
Actually, if women have rejected me, if anyone has rejected me, I feel mostly nothing, but to the extent that I feel anything, it’s hate, because fuck em, I don’t want them in my life. Life is too short to give a shit about people who aren’t into you. Move the fuck on with your life.If we’re just friends, our friendship is over. If we don’t know each other, I will never offer you mere friendship.
Basically, I’m done with platonic friendship, at least for now. Platonic friendship may be possible and/or desirable to men who are very sexually satisfied in life, men who get plenty of action, men who come from a place of sexual abundance, because they can have an attractive friend and not be overwhelmed with desire for her. It’s like if someone who just ate went to a restaurant - they’re not going to be upset if they don’t get to eat. Platonic friendship could also be possible and/or desirable if one friend isn’t attracted to the other, but I think this is rarely the case. For men who aren’t sexually satisfied, platonic friendship is difficult, judging by most of the evidence I’ve encountered. And I’m done with it. We could debate the merits of platonic friendship for a very long time, but that’s my explanation.The friendship I’ve offered to your sex has been abused too much and for too long.
Personally, I think subjecting yourself to mere friendship with someone who you want a physical connection with is unhealthy. Relationships in which there are strong unrequited feelings are unhealthy to maintain. And women I’ve been friends with have typically been aware of my unrequited feelings, because I’d established their existence early on, but I reluctantly agreed to be “just friends” because I just liked being around these women so much. I have too much self-respect to subject myself to that kind of shit anymore. It’s unhealthy to be constantly reminded of what you want most and can’t have.I now spit at the concept.
Just a bit of emphasis.So I offer you two options and two options only: take this dick, or fuck off and die. Spread your legs, or go fall on a knife. Wet my prick, or eat a fucking bullet.
Here’s where people lost their shit. I was purposely trying to be provocative and abrasive, and clearly it worked, but basically, it’s just a strident way of saying that I only want relationships in which physical connection is an element, and that if you reject that, you can fuck off - you can fuck off to the extent that I don’t care if you die. I wasn’t saying that I want sex to be the only element of the relationship, just one element, a necessary one. No where will you see the word “only” or anything even implying that. People made that part up on their own. When I say it’s a necessary element, I just mean to say that I now only seek relationships in which sexual or physical intent has been established. Sex doesn’t have to occur from the outset, and I didn’t say that it did.
The assumptions people made about this were that I was saying: 1) Women are only good for sex, which I didn’t say, 2) That I only want to fuck women, nothing else, which I also didn’t say, and 3) That I’ll kill women who don’t fuck me. I said that I don’t care if they kill themselves if they reject me. I suppose I should have said “go eat a bullet” rather than just “eat a bullet”. We all make mistakes. LOL.In other words, if you don’t want to fuck me, then stay out of my life forever. If you don’t want to fuck me, I honestly couldn’t care less if you died.
See. That’s what I meant, which is why I said it.Those are the only options you get. Those are the only options you deserve.
That one upset people too. Based on all the evidence I’ve encountered, I think that the way women operated in my personal friendships is the way women operate in friendships generally. As with any generality about human nature, there are exceptions, obviously. But I’m not going to mention that every time I talk about people. It should be obvious enough.
Onto the other post:Here’s how it works: I get put in the friend zone. I try my best to escalate, and get rejected over and over again. I then have to sit on the sideline as she blatantly and wantonly fucks other guys. She keeps me on the sideline by telling me “you’re great” and “maybe if things were different…” and so on, while telling me about how she fucks other guys.
It happens - Every. Fucking. Time.
“Wantonly” just means she’s a slut about it. “Blatantly” just means she makes it obvious to me.I’ve never been good enough. I’ve never been physically attractive enough, I’ve never been confident enough, and I’ve never been assertive enough. Those are the only three qualities in which her mates were superior to me. I’m almost always smarter, funnier, kinder, more romantic, more caring, more thoughtful, and a slew of other qualities women say they want, but don’t actually choose. This is just more proof that women are fucking liars. Science shows that there’s a huge disconnect between what women say they want in a man and what actually arouses them physiologically.
Yea, women are liars. So are men. I’m a misanthrope, not a misogynist.In addition to being liars, women are sadists. Their instinct is to keep men on the sideline while they fuck what they consider to be higher quality men. During times of peak fertility, women have the strongest desire to cheat on their partners, and, also during these times, they’re most aroused by men who are the most physically attractive, confident, assertive, and, thus, dominant - alpha males. They’ll still fuck their partners, but only to keep them around. Women’s instinct is to fuck the alpha male, to have his children, and to keep other men around to satisfy other needs, such as child-rearing, providing resources, or being a friend. Women’s instinct is to bastardize. Women’s instinct is to cuckold. And, to a lesser extent, women’s instinct is to friend-zone.
Yea, women are pigs. So are men, but I’m not going to add that caveat every time I criticize women. I mainly criticize women because I don’t give a fuck about men.Well, I’m done being friend-zoned. I will never merely befriend a woman ever again. I have too much self-respect to allow myself to be subjected to that again.
Nowhere, in either post, did I say or even imply that I’m entitled to, owed, or somehow deserve sex for being a nice guy, and if you want to say otherwise, cite specific words or shut the fuck up. I said I had good qualities, often better than other mates, but that’s just stating the facts as I see them, and trying to understand them. Most of the criticism and hate I’m getting is from people making up their own version of what I said, and then addressing that.
As far as misogyny goes, it means “hatred of women”. If you disagree, look it up in your nearest dictionary. I really don’t give a fuck if you think I’m a misogynist, I just think it’s silly to call me that. I’m more anti-man than anti-woman. I’ve written in earlier posts about my love for women, and I’ll just sum up my views on women here. I have problems with women, and I criticize them so much because they’re my main interest in life. To me, they’re the greatest source of happiness, and, more so than anything else, they make life worth living. They improve my life more than anything. They make me a better person. They’ve been the ultimate correcting force in my life. It literally blows my mind how much I love women. I’m not a religious person, but most people eventually experience something that can be described as a “religious” or “spiritual” experience, and the only similar experiences I’ve had are associated with women. Yea, it’s that bad. If you read my earlier posts, they’re really hopelessly romantic and borderline cheesy. I’m a fucking R&B nerd, for Christ’s sake. Who’s even heard of an R&B nerd? If I should be accused of anything, it’s putting women on a pedestal, which is why I tend to focus so much of my positive and negative energy on them. Experiencing women, in every way, is the ultimate experience a man can pursue, and I think it’s the ultimate reason men do everything.
You’ll probably criticize me for saying how much I love women, too, because you don’t like me. Well, fuck you, etc.
The hate and criticism will keep rolling in, for weeks if not months, and few people will probably read this, but it’s really all I can do to try to fix this situation.
Oh, and don’t just say I have mental issues. Address the content of what I wrote.
ah ha ha ha.
This fucking guy.
A fucking fountain of facepalms and chuckles.
Dude, quit thinking with your dick. Women are your focus in life? Because all you care about is getting laid. That is stupid shit, focus on other things, make friends without worrying about what gender they are and you will be happy.
Birth Control 101 For Idiots
This is hormonal birth control.
As you can see on the box, you take exactly one pill per day. To make sure it works, you need to take one pill every day at the same time, or it stops working. You take only one pill, and you keep taking them regardless of what you are doing that day.
Hormonal birth control can be used to treat a lot of different diseases, like anemia caused by excessive menstruation. It is a prescription medication that can cost around $15-50 a month. Because it is a prescription medication, it should be covered by insurance, as it treats legitimate health problems.
This is Viagra.
It, too, can treat legitimate health problems like altitude sickness and pulmonary hypertension, but it is usually prescribed for erectile dysfunction. Unlike the Pill, Viagra is taken every time you want to have sex. A lot of health insurance companies cover Viagra, so it costs about as much as your co-pay.
This is a condom.
It is not a prescription medication, and has no health benefits (besides the prevention of STIs and pregnancy). Like Viagra, you must use one before you have sex: indeed, before each sex act. They cost about a dollar per condom.
This is Sandra Fluke.
She testified before a small, Democrat-led hearing after she was cut out of the actual birth control/insurance discussion. Her testimony was about a friend of hers who, because her insurance did not cover birth control, lost an ovary due to an ovarian cyst.
This somehow translates into “I, myself, personally, am having so much sex I can’t afford birth control, and so I want the government to pay for it.”
This is wrong for multiple reasons.
- It was about a friend, not her. To say her testimony was about her personally is factually incorrect.
- Sex had nothing to do with the testimony - her friend lost an ovary because of medical condition that was left untreated. A medical condition that was completely treatable, but wasn’t, because her insurance wouldn’t cover it. To say that her testimony was about her being “a slut” or “a prostitute” is factually incorrect.
- Even if she was having loads of sex, she would still only have one pill a day, not one pill per sex act, so to say “I’m having so much sex I can’t afford birth control” is completely erroneous. The Pill is not Viagra or condoms. To say that she is such “a slut” that she constantly needs more pills is factually incorrect.
- The current political debate is not “should the government pay for birth control?” The debate is “should insurance companies, that people and their employers pay for, on their own, be required to cover birth control?” To say that Sandra Fluke wants the government to pay for her birth control is factually incorrect.
- Religious organizations do not want to have birth control covered by their insurance, even for employees not of their faith, even if their employees never actually use their insurance to cover birth control. By this logic, they should also not pay their employees, because they could use that money to pay for birth control out of pocket. To say that this issue is about religious freedom and not about women’s health is disingenuous, as Ms. Fluke’s testimony demonstrates.
Hopefully this makes things a little clearer.
It’s extremely clear, but we are dealing with the war on women, as raged by the right wing.
Giantbomb: When Passions Flare, Lines Are Crossed
Rea: When I go to SoCal regionals and I see a Phoenix [from Marvel vs. Capcom 3] on main stage getting blown up and there’s some dude in the audience just yelling “Bitch! Bitch!” every time she gets hit and then she killed and goes “Yeah, rape that bitch!” Yeah, that’s totally acceptable! Really? Really? You’re going to tell me that’s acceptable?
Bakhtanians: Look, man. What is unacceptable about that? There’s nothing unacceptable about that. These are people, we’re in America, man, this isn’t North Korea. We can say what we want. People get emotional.
A great read about some nasty habits of the tournament fighting game scene. Rape culture and really fucked up rage, and the guy standing up for it says those things are essential to fighting games.
I never noticed this sort of shit at the tournaments I’ve attended, but I know it happens out there, is misogyny really part of the DNA of fighting games, or is that just the excuse of some assholes? I really hope it’s the later.